(Mentions buying new shoes and needing to take them out for a Dance)
So last night I went to an impromptu dinner with some girlfriends and then shoe shopping with one of them. Sounds very Sex in the City doesn’t it. Trust me no Manolos were even touched! More like the clearance area of the Max & Ross.
Now it is a known fact that I have WAY more shoes then could be classified as covering a “need”. Even with that understanding though I am no Imelda Marcos. There aren’t several pairs of one style in the same or varied colors. Other then the basic blacks and browns I don’t really have even lots in one color. I mean everyone who lives in a warm climate needs various flip flop options. Now my friend suggested her boy should perhaps look in my closet and then he might leave her alone. Well that isn’t going to happen I have to be dating you and be thinking about living with you before you would get a firm idea of my shoe collection. As I told her he would have to find them in between the two closets and then the “hidden” dressy ones. Lets be real even my girlfriends who I am sure think they have a firm idea of how many I have would probably under estimate the number and that is how I like it! I don’t necessarily think this is a good thing. I do put myself in time out every once in awhile and don’t buy more. Currently I am on a time out from flip flops as an example.
Well as we were shopping one of the topics that came up was how boys/men sometimes think that we have too many shoes. They have at most 4 or 5 pairs and think that is all that they and as their significant other all we should need. They just don’t understand why we “need” more. Well while I was driving home from the shopping where neither of us bought any shoes I was thinking about it. They say we only need four or five but they comment how “great” we look when we wear things like this one.
But never seem to notice how great our legs look when we wear something like this one:
And come on we know what they would think if we wore something like shoe number three.
If it doesn’t bring up the thought of a dominatrix then I think they may have been living under a rock somewhere! I mean even CSI has recurrent one on the show every once in awhile there last year!
You will notice that none of the examples above are ones that you could wear to that important business meeting unless for two of the options you were going to a meeting at Vivid Entertainment and the other to a meeting at REI! But they would count in your 4 or 5 you “need”. Add to that a pair of trainers to work out in and then something to wear to work and you would be done.
Now even my most non-shoe loving girlfriend non-reader might be stretched to have that few. So why do men in general always comment about their girlfriends shoes. Is it the closet space they take up? I think not since they only have 4 or 5. Is it the cost of them? Again I think not because for the most part when the comments start they don’t know how much they cost and don’t have access to her budget. So why non-reader?
Admittedly I am not in a relationship and I have made some over generalizations. I mean if you are a male gay non-reader you need that closet space and wouldn’t even think to come on your “girl” friends’ shoes. In fact you might even enable buying more. If you have been married for years then the boy has a firm understanding of how much those shoes that he loved when you were dating cost and the thought might make him sick! But this does seem to be something that comes up in lots of relationships. I remember my parents talking about it as I grew up. I remember my most significant relationship we talked about it. One of our earliest fights was over a pair of heels that I felt I had to have and he didn't understand why. "Where are you going to wear those?" might have been thrown about. I hear my girlfriends talk about it. So I do think it might something that is common.
But really are we as women raising generations of men to think that this is one of the areas that it is acceptable to comment and have a double standard? I think that perhaps we are. Nothing that we need to work on but really just the thoughts that I had driving home before I got to the world’s most cute and loveable dog.
If it doesn’t bring up the thought of a dominatrix then I think they may have been living under a rock somewhere! I mean even CSI has recurrent one on the show every once in awhile there last year!
You will notice that none of the examples above are ones that you could wear to that important business meeting unless for two of the options you were going to a meeting at Vivid Entertainment and the other to a meeting at REI! But they would count in your 4 or 5 you “need”. Add to that a pair of trainers to work out in and then something to wear to work and you would be done.
Now even my most non-shoe loving girlfriend non-reader might be stretched to have that few. So why do men in general always comment about their girlfriends shoes. Is it the closet space they take up? I think not since they only have 4 or 5. Is it the cost of them? Again I think not because for the most part when the comments start they don’t know how much they cost and don’t have access to her budget. So why non-reader?
Admittedly I am not in a relationship and I have made some over generalizations. I mean if you are a male gay non-reader you need that closet space and wouldn’t even think to come on your “girl” friends’ shoes. In fact you might even enable buying more. If you have been married for years then the boy has a firm understanding of how much those shoes that he loved when you were dating cost and the thought might make him sick! But this does seem to be something that comes up in lots of relationships. I remember my parents talking about it as I grew up. I remember my most significant relationship we talked about it. One of our earliest fights was over a pair of heels that I felt I had to have and he didn't understand why. "Where are you going to wear those?" might have been thrown about. I hear my girlfriends talk about it. So I do think it might something that is common.
But really are we as women raising generations of men to think that this is one of the areas that it is acceptable to comment and have a double standard? I think that perhaps we are. Nothing that we need to work on but really just the thoughts that I had driving home before I got to the world’s most cute and loveable dog.
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